Relationship Insights ! (Personality test)
I took this test in the fall of 2013 . It gave me a lot of insight when i was suffering in a relationship. I ll describe my 'take' on this once you are done with the test.
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NO CHEATING! That will take all the fun out of it.
This is a very interesting test. Try it.
Have a pen and paper handy before you read any further. As soon as you read a question, write the answer right away.
Make sure to answer questions 1-8 before moving on…NO CHEATING!!
Read the following questions, imagining the scenes in your mind, and write down the FIRST thing that you visualize. Do not think about the questions excessively.
1. You are not alone. You are walking in the woods. Who are you walking with?
2. You are walking in the woods. You see an animal. What kind of animal is it?
3. What interaction takes place between you and the animal?
4. You walk deeper in the woods. You enter a clearing and before you is your dream house. Describe its size?
5. Is your dream house surrounded by a fence?
6. You enter the house. You walk to the dining area and see the dining room table. Describe what you see on AND around the table.
7. You exit the house through the back door. Lying in the grass is a cup. What material is the cup made of?
8. What do you do with the cup?
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This has been a relational psychology test. The answers given to the questions have been shown to have a relevance to values and ideals that we hold in our personal lives. Its more of a reflection on how you are currently perceiving your relationship with someone. The analysis follows:
1. The person who you are walking with is the most important person in your life.
2. The size of the animal is representative of your perception of the size of your problems.
3. The severity of the interaction you have with the animal is representative of how you deal with your problems. (passive/aggressive)
4. The size of your dream house is representative of the size of your ambition to resolve your problems.
5. No fence is indicative of an open personality. People are welcome at all times. The presence of a fence indicates a closed personality. You’d prefer people not to drop by unannounced.
6. If your answer did not include food, people, or flowers, then you are generally unhappy.
7. The durability of the material with which the cup is made of is representative of the perceived durability of your relationship with the person named in number 1. For example, Styrofoam, and paper are all disposable, Styrofoam, paper and glass are not durable, and metal and plastic are durable.
8. Your disposition of the cup is representative of your attitude towards the person in number 1.
My own test results:
I was in relationship dump when i first took this one... gave me a lot of insight and clarity .
Here is what happened.
Question 1: You are not alone. You are walking in the woods. Who are you walking with?
Answer 1. I saw myself walking with this girl that i had been in love with for a long time, but things weren't working out. Lets call her 'Robin' to protect the identity of the innocent .
Analysis : Yes she was kinda always on my mind, so its safe to say that she was and still is important.
Question 2: You are walking in the woods. You see an animal. What kind of animal is it?
Answer 2: The animal that i saw was a Deer, a Stag to be more precise, had antlers and all, strong and robust.
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| Come at me bro ! :p |
Analysis : Now deer is a medium sized animal , and is a quite docile one generally, until you go a lock horns with it. Same for my problems in my relationship, they were there , they weren't monumental , but yes they gave me a lot of pain , if i tried to solve them , or approach them aggressively with an intent to solve them. The test says that animal is representative of the perception of the size of my problem. 'Perception' being the key word here. Perception is my own view of the world, and often it doesn't really have any roots in Actual reality. In a objective world view, nothing no where is Right or Wrong, and so my problems are not really problems, they are more like situations, that are just present, And have the choice to give these situations the power to make me feel good or bad by assigning them the tag of good or bad. So my perception will constantly change with how hopeful i am or how fearful i am regarding a particular situation. So the more hopeful i am, the smaller the animal will be, and smaller my problem will actually be. That is a relief.
Question 3: What interaction takes place between you and the animal?
Answer 3: The stag looks at me , i don't react , it runs away.
Analysis : In the past i have been the, Fight it out , deal with it kinda person, but recently i have been more of a 'at peace' , 'i just wanna be happy kinda person' so, i didn't aggravate my problems, and so they left me alone. at-least i had that working out for me.
Question 4: You walk deeper in the woods. You enter a clearing and before you is your dream house. Describe its size?
Answer no 4: I saw a big Wooden house, luxurious, Spacious, and comfortable.
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| Close enough... |
Analysis: As i told you before , lately i had been more occupied with the resolve to be happy, so yes this house in all its glory represented a peaceful , tranquil , and comfortable approach in my ways of solving my problems.
Question 5: Is your dream house surrounded by a fence?
Answer 5: There was no Fence.
Analysis: Yes i am a more open minded person, it wasn't true before , but lately i have been more accepting and peaceful, and open to new information, and expansion.
Question 6: You enter the house. You walk to the dining area and see the dining room table. Describe what you see on AND around the table?
Answer 6: So i saw a huge dining hall , i was alone, big table, hunting trophies on the wall, quite. no there were no flowers , people , children .
Analysis : Well i had been a fearful person till now, and yes, fearful ones are never generally happy.. and my quest for peace and my own happiness came from this unhappiness only. so quite true.
Question 7: You exit the house through the back door. Lying in the grass is a cup. What material is the cup made of?
Answer 7: So i went through the back door , a white porcelain cup lay in the grass.
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| Doesn't wear over time, but requires good handling. |
Analysis : Now i have always perceived Porcelain cups to be beautiful, smooth, easy to hold, feel good in your fingers And everlasting if you handle it with care. And that is how i looked at my relationship with Robin, it was good , smooth, beautiful ,and gave me and her joy , and yes it had the potential to last for ever . But at the same time porcelain cups are kind of fragile, if they fall an a soft surface they may survive, but they generally break if you drop em on solid ground, not unlike a metal or a plastic cup. And so , yes i had this fear of loosing this relationship, a fear so strong that i felt like it was the end whenever there was even a slight bump. Why i felt like this was probably, because i have never had such an amazing relationship before. And so the idea of loosing this one seemed terrible. So yes i kinda handled my relationship like a porcelain cup.
It was after this, that i realized , that a relationship is how i make it to be, did i stop loving her after each and every bump ? No ! i didn't, so then why was i afraid that she would stop loving me? What i give in a relationship i deserved back, and till now if i look at it, she has always been receptive, and i have always gotten what invested, so then my fear for her leaving me at a slightest bump, is irrational , it actually just stems from my immense love for her. and this immense love stage has been achieved by me because of all the love that i have received from her.. so she ain't gonna leave me.. so this can be a metal cup. That's a Relief.
Question 8: What do you do with the cup?
Answer 8: I pick the cup up , and keep it in a safe place.
Analysis: That is how i have been , protective and caring , of her and of the relationship. its good, but when i start doing so because i think that my relationship is a fragile thing, its turns bad. coz now in my mind my relationship , though good, is also not strong. This is a wrong way to think about it.. i have guarded it for a long time, but i don't have to guard it anymore, it can become a metal cup, and so i can carry it anywhere, my relationship can be something not good and fragile but something good and strong like a metal cup... it doesn't belong at home, in safety , if belongs out there with me traveling the world, going through life's up's and down's and still stong and good.
The results of this test gave me a great insight on my own perception of my relationship and how i needed to change my perception for the universe to allow and provide me with the desired results.
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